don’t know that there are any good answers here.
dd (just turned 15) is an avid figure skater and a (may I say it?) a devout Catholic.
dd’s friend from skating (just turned 17) has a very troubled past but I thought her adoptive father (very complicated situation) had turned his life around and they’d been attending a Catholic church, girl recently confirmed, father now receiving communion, etc.
dd recently confided in me that her friend (who’d pretty much dropped out of skating and who dd hadn’t seen in a while) dropped out because she’d turned up pregnant and that her “father” had forced her to have an abortion. “Father” kicked her out of house and girl is living w/ boyfriend’s family.
dd is horrified – she goes regularly to pray at the only abortion clinic in town, and by chance? design? the day her friend went there, we weren’t there – the usual Catholic crowd of us had parted to allow an Evangelical group to hold a rally at the center that day. . . . if we’d only been there, but “ifs” are like belly buttons – everyone’s got one.
#1 If she ever came home pregnant, her dad and I would be heartily disappointed in her, but that we would keep and love the baby as our own grandchild, and as a part of her, which s/he would be.
Response: MOOOOOM! I’d NEVER do that until I’m married!
#2 She should be supportive of her friend. Make sure she knows about Rachel’s Vineyard, & various other resources. Her friend can call her or me if she needs anything.
#3 Urge her to come back to the Church – not the one she’d been attending, but to ours or one of several solid orthodox parishes in the area. (IMHO: the one she’d been attending with her “father” is a bastion of liberal politics)
What else to do?