Nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. You need to deal with your anger some how or the other. It is not easy I know because I am also struggling with it. There is this women I listen to her name is Joyce Meyer and she is a wonderful speaker and I have attached what she says about anger.
Dealing With Anger…God’s Way
by Joyce Meyer
Everybody has to deal with anger from time to time. But how is the best way to handle it? To answer that question, we first must understand what anger really is. Anger is an emotion often characterized by feelings of great displeasure, indignation, hostility, wrath, and vengeance. Many times, anger is how we express our dissatisfaction with life. It is defined in the Greek as the strongest of all passions. Anger begins with a feeling that often is expressed in words or actions. We feel something, and it causes us to say or do something.
GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM
Anger is the fruit of rotten roots. One of the primary roots of anger probably stems from the family. Angry people come from angry families because they learn from their role models and perpetuate the same behavior in their own lives… eventually passing it on to their children.
OTHER ROOTS OF ANGER INCLUDE:
Injustice—when people mistreat us and we feel there is nothing we can do about it, we get angry because we feel it isn’t fair. As much as we would like to change the situation or the person who is treating us badly, we can’t. People can’t change people, only God can change people. So it’s best to put your energy into praying for the offender.
Strife—which is hidden, repressed anger, begins with judgment, gossip, talebearing, backbiting, and thinking too highly of one’s self. Strife is often exhibited in arguing, bickering, heated disagreements, and angry undercurrents.
Impatience—often produces anger when we can’t get what we want when we want it. When others impede our progress or slow us down, it is easy to become impatient. Most of us struggle with impatience on a daily basis simply because of today’s fast-paced world.
Abuse of any kind—sexual, physical, verbal, emotional, or mental almost always leads to anger. All of these abuses are injustices, and injustice eventually leaves the abused feeling helpless and angry. Abuse of this kind cannot be ignored. You must deal with it and process it before you can get rid of it.
Unmet needs—can also produce anger. We all have needs that can and should be met by those closest to us. However, others cannot know and understand our needs unless we communicate with them. But even then they may sometimes fail to meet our needs. So the answer is to go to God with your needs and quit looking to other people.
Jealousy—anger caused by jealousy was one of the first negative emotions mentioned in the Bible. Genesis 4 tells us that Cain killed his brother Abel because he was jealous to the point of being angry. This is one of the more extreme results of jealousy, but it serves to remind us of how dangerous jealousy can be.
Many people are afraid that someone else may get ahead of them. They think their importance in the world depends on their job or their position in the church. Jealousy causes them to try to be important in the eyes of man. If you have this problem, understand that God has you where you are now for a reason. He knows what is in your future, and He may have you in training for it right now. There is a big difference between being able and being ready to do a specific thing. So don’t despise the days of small beginnings. Remember that we must answer to God. Our rewards come from obeying the specific callings He has placed on our lives not from the great things we manage to accomplish as far as the world is concerned. Other roots that lead to anger include insecurity, fear of confrontation, and a feeling of being controlled by a job or other people and their problems. I used to get mad at people who controlled me until God told me one day, “You are just as guilty as they are because you’re letting them do it.” We must not put excessive pressure on ourselves by making too many commitments just because we don’t want to say no to someone.