My husband and I spent 5 years trying to conceive on our own the “natural” way before we even began to consider infertility treatment. During that time I have spent time praying over our decisions and what level of treatment I am comfortable in pursuing. Both my husband and I have spent hours praying together and alone as to “how far” we are doing.
I firmly believe that my decisions as to the method that I become pregnant are between my husband, myself, and God- and not between my husband, myself, and the Church.
That being said, we are currently going through artificial insemination, and not using the Catholic Condom. This is our last shot before IVF or pursuing a donated embryo.
I’m not here to be judged, or to be told how immoral/wrong/hell-inducing our decision is. I’m simply here because I’m very open about our infertility struggle in the community, and most people know at least the general info on what treatments we are doing.
What I need advice on are the instances in which I have to defend my decision within my parish community. There have been several times when people have called me to task on the fact that we’re going against the wishes of the Church when it comes to our family building, and I’m looking for responses that are tactful, yet firmly express our stance that this is a decision between ourselves and our God.