This is actually in response from ‘Seeking advice from the Married and Engaged…’ thread.
After having read that thread, I couldn’t help but just sigh in a kind of despair. It seemed like nearly everyone “just knew”. Did no one have doubts at all during any time of the relationship? How do you deal with doubts? Cuz it seems like, since you “just know”, any doubts you’d have would be an indication that maybe that one isn’t the one.
The guy I’m seeing right now is a good guy; he’s got a good heart. He’s not practicing Catholic, but he’s started going to church, and thats a good step. He’s told me he loved me and that he was willing to give practicing a shot, though he’s said he’s afraid he may not reach up to my standards.
I love him too, and I’ve imagined living my life with him. He’s got the qualities a woman would like: does the dishes, cooks dinner, etc. lol. There’s other stuff too that I like, but you get the idea.
However, I just don’t know. We’ve been dating for little over two months now, and I know there’s still plenty of time for anything else. It’s just that, I don’t like his video game playing, because I don’t think its fun to be killing and blowing up things (it’s just so violent). It’s not something I grew up with, nor is it something I’d want my kids to grow up with. So, I guess then what I’m asking is, am I being picky or unreasonable? I want at least 5 or even more children, he seems to only want 3 at most.
I want our relationship to work so badly, and yet, it’s hard to be such a strong Catholic with someone who’s not. Does that make sense? I figure maybe it’ll take all of the two years before my graduation for him to re-convert (if that’s what God has planned, and because I don’t want to get married til after I graduate). But it just seems like…it just seems rather impossible, and I know to be patient, and all that. And I can, and will be, if I just knew if he was the one. And since this post is getting way to long, I’m cutting it here.
Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
(You know what else? He might find this and read this…I dont know how to feel about that either, but maybe it’d be a good thing, I dont know :shrug: )