**Dear Abby: **
From time to time, you tell young women who think they might be pregnant and are afraid to tell their parents to do so.
I am a minister. Several years ago, I worked for Planned Parenthood and we had a young girl – about 13 years old – test positive for pregnancy. We urged her to tell her parents, but she kept refusing, insisting, “Dad will kill me!”
We finally convinced her that the best thing was to tell her parents, have the baby, and get on with her life.
Her father beat her so badly that she was in the hospital for more than a month. She lost the baby because of the beating and ended up in foster care.
I will never again tell a young person that her parents will not go crazy, and I don’t think you should do that, either. Thanks, Abby.
Regretful in Florida
**Dear Regretful: **
Thank you for the warning. Even though we wish all teenagers could disclose to their parents, as your letter illustrates, it is a sad reality that some of them cannot. Although most young girls do involve their families, there will always be some who are unable to do so.
For that reason, I do not believe that parental notification should be mandated by law. And because sex education is no longer taught in as many states as it had been, I strongly urge parents to begin talking to their children early about the facts of life and their personal value systems, to create a safe and comfortable environment should a crisis occur.