Deciding to homeschool?


My apologies.

It appeared to me as if you were being sarcastic rather then sincere because you made a dig at homeschool students.

My friend would LOVE to homeschool her daughter. She really would. But she cannot…not when she has other children to worry about. What is best for them and what is best for her daughter is all different. And while the SPED program is great, the rest of the school isn’t what her other kids need. It’s not about “dumping” her SPED daughter with a public school. It’s about each and ever individual child.

Her 2nd son is extremely gifted and he’s looking to get into a publicly-run charter school for STEM students. They’re doing physics in 6th grade.

My point is that public school should never be ruled out as some posters suggest. You can’t until you know what your child needs and if you can provide it.


I agree that it should not be ruled out, but those who have no use for it should not be required to pay for it.



There’s a soverign citizen thread that might be right for you.


It’s funny, and I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way, that we both value homeschooling and yet I disagree with almost everything you’ve posted in this thread. :woman_shrugging:


That’s fine! Just be glad I’m not homeschooling your kids. Mine agree with me and that’s all I care. My wife teaches them well.


Political commentary aside, I appreciate the responses I received here. It’s helping me to do some more research. I feel much more confident that I could pull it off if needed and it’s nice to know there are people here I can talk to if/when I need more concrete advice or direction.

I’m still going to hope we end up with a bunch of good options, including a great public school system; but, knowing we can focus on just getting that new job is nice.


Even if you don’t go with them, I’d recommend calling Seton or Kolbe and speaking to their counselors. They are a real confidence booster.

If your husband is not on board, Seton is REALLY comforting. They not only do an intake test, but they will also allow you to do this “intake” assessment again at the end of the year—or even mid-year. My sister is in a situation where she has a good-for-nothing ex who ONLY wants to make trouble. My niece couldn’t fail 3rd grade because she’d already failed first and NCLB didn’t allow her to fail again. So Seton allowed us to do an assessment before (to which :weary: she showed 1st and 2nd grade comprehension in most subjects). Midyear she was more on track, and by the end she had mastered all 4th.

On the IOWA she showed a few things still in 2nd (which was still a jump) and up to “completed” 6th grade in Math. Yeah, the kid who didn’t test in a single area as more than “early 3rd” finished the year with middle school math skills.

She is in public school now because she really needs 1:1 help for her learning disabilities. For the first time in her life, she’s enjoying school. If she was my child…I’m not sure what I’d do. I did really well helping her through many things, but I have to say there is something to be said for the rigorous professional attention she’s getting in some areas.


Some kids with special needs do well at homeschooling. Particularly autism spectrum disorders, where they need consistency, and do not do well with peer conflicts. A year ago I was talking with a CAF mother who was homeschooling her ASD son, and they had a support network for non-neurotypical homeschoolers. They got together for special activities, and neurotypical homeschoolers also participated. Special education in some districts is a dumping ground, and homeschooling is often the best option. Consultation with local district specialists often works. Otherwise, things like speech therapy, occupational therapy, etc can be managed through hospital resources, if your insurance will pay.


Some do and some don’t.

I just finished writing about my niece. I homeschooled her for my sister (who must work because she was abandoned by her ex who has no job). She had been in Catholic school PK-3 and had already failed grade 1. The school just kept telling my sister that my niece was a “late bloomer” and “just emotional” because of her father.

I’ve known there’s something odd about that kid since she was 4. I homeschooled her last year and her insurance would pay for “preleminary educational assments”. My sister eventually got the whole shebang. They wouldn’t cover any therepy, though.

This year, I couldn’t homeschool her again. However, the district is WONDERFUL. She’s getting all sorts of help. Insurance wouldn’t pay for anything.

When I talk about my friend with 7 kids, her daughter is not on the spectrum. She has a disorder that means minor to severe delays in motor, communication, etc skills.

Homeschooling can be an option, but what I was addressing was that there are many parents who are DEAD SET on homeschooling or make declarations that homeschooling is the only legitimate parenting option/public school never is that don’t know what they are talking about.

If SPED is a dumping ground, yeah, it’s bad. However, if it’s not, it’s a God-send. And like you said if your insurance will pay. Since Obamacare has been rolled out most people in my income bracket have been forced into expensive PPO or High-deductible plans which don’t pay for squat.


Agreed. Every situation is different. I once met with a Mennonite family who sent one of their daughters to public school because of special education needs. She was resisting baptism because then she would be wearing a doily, which would set her apart from the rest of the kids. They were thinking of my crochet doily collection on the walls of my apartment. Special education in this district is good, so home-schooling would not be an option; they were bemoaning the abysmal Amish education system. Hopefully they went to an antique store and let her choose some that were more decorative. Nothing wrong with being different. They have one older single member of their community who dresses like a nun! :grin:


From what I hear, the early years of homeschooling are not very difficult in terms of pulling together curriculum. It’s around 4th grade that things start getting sticky.


Well, I think this is true with all education. Montessori can reasonably be done from age 3 to second grade, 3rd grade if you want to push it. There’s a big developmental leap after age 8. (Ironically, the Catholic age of reason, coincidence much?). In some cultures “real” schooling doesn’t begin until 8/9.


Shhhh! We’d be starting this endeavor with grade 4! :laughing:


Very true. What school you need to do can get done in a hour or two. And once you get into high school, things start becoming different as well. The child is more independent and can do his school by himself. You just have to set him up. It’s that in-between stage that is hard.


As a deaf woman…I agree with you.

It took me a while to realize part of my resistance to sending my kids to Catholic school was I never wanted them to associate some of the school experiences with Catholicism.

I was lucky I had a set of parents paying attention and had no issue being difficult. Even so I am fully aware of how many people will exercise petty power over a weaker person if they can get away with it. And these aren’t cartoon villains, these were otherwise “good” people. It is why I always insist it is the small and private decisions that determine your character.

If I had a disable child…I wouldn’t send them to public schools. None of the “resources” are worth it.


No worries!

Honestly, there’s something REALLY fun about that age.

It might seem like “oh no I can’t spend all day traipsing around and doing fun things”

Well, you can still do MANY fun things in 4th grade. However, you are doing some really exciting things. You’ve finally built enough reading skills to read stories that are complex and interesting (learning nuance, meaning, etc) and investigating types of writing–poetry, fiction, biography. You are really starting to write in an interesting way that’s not regurgitation. You are doing math–like fractions and decimals-- that aren’t just basic and makes the world make sense! Money! Baking!

Honestly, the younger grades are EXHAUSTING. Little kids need so much stimulation. I love every moment but there’s something to be said for advanced learning and independence.


Most college-educated parents can do K-2 fairly easily without pre-packaged programs. Then you need to at least have the state curriculum guidelines at easy access to make sure your kids can easily integrate into a school if something were to happen. like death of a spouse.


There’s a major transition around then between learning to read and reading to learn, and it can be pretty jarring.


Wow, I will be watching your family on Dr. Phil in another 5 years or so. (And I thought the TV series “Father Knows Best” got cancelled a long time ago . . . (sigh) oh, well.)


I was just talking to a homeschooling mom the other day. She said that people are always asking her what homeschooling is like, because they have this ideal situation in their head. And then when the ideal situation doesn’t play out, they get frustrated and give up.

So her question to them is-- “How do your kids act when you tell them to take a nap? That’s how they’ll act when you homeschool them.” If they are cooperative in one area, they’ll likely be cooperative in homeschooling; if they fight you every inch of the way in one area, they’ll likely fight you in homeschooling. That’s not to say that only docile and cooperative children can successfully homeschool, but it prepares you mentally to not get burned out and frustrated before the end of the first school year, because you can anticipate what to expect, and how to get around it.

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