Well, not quit exactly, but… I’m going to give notice of my intention not to renew my contract. I’m a teacher at a private academy.
When I got hired in January of 2007 (for a start date of August last year), I told them I was planning to stay at this school for a few years. Well, it turns out I was wrong. Shortly after signing the contract I met a wonderful man, whom I can only see on Sundays because we live in different cities. Things are getting more serious, and we’re discerning marriage - but we really can’t do that if we only see each other once a week if we’re lucky.
A few months ago, I was certain that quitting this job was the right decision. My salary was lower than average. I live far away from my boyfriend. I shared an office with a woman I couldn’t stand.
Fast forward to now: I got a big raise, and I’m going to be at a higher than average salary (although it didn’t appear in my paycheque this month! :mad:). I got my own office, bigger and better than the one I shared. I still live far away from my boyfriend. My contract ends on August 21st.
I have contacts in private schools in my boyfriend’s town, but I don’t have a job lined up. I’m technically only required to give 30 days notice, but my school takes 4 months to hire, which means that if I’m going to treat them fairly I should tell them now. Schools in his town tend to hire in June or July, when it’ll be too late to change my mind if I don’t get a job there. There’s a teacher shortage there, but I’m still nervous.
My coworkers want me to stay, mostly because they don’t like the idea of getting used to a new person. They are also warning me about moving for a man or giving up my own job for a man. I think it makes much more sense to live close to each other while we’re discerning marriage.
My boyfriend offered to move to my town, but it’s much harder for him to transfer his working visa than it is for me to transfer mine. (We’re both foreign workers.) He’d love to quit his job, but so far his company refuses to release him from his company-sponsored visa. Even if he did quit, there are more jobs in his field (printing) in his town than in mine.
I’m 90% sure that leaving is the right decision. I’m taking this weekend to discuss it with my boyfriend and make my final decision. (Note that he does feel the same way about marriage, and also that he has applied for a working visa to Canada, which must be way more fear-inducing than my simple move to a town two cities away.) Any thoughts? Is it foolish to give up a good job to live closer to the man I want to marry? Is there anything else I should consider?