I grew up Catholic and Lutheran (Missouri Synod) and then chose RCIA as a young adult. During RCIA we learned about reconciliation and did our first confession. However, because the church was purchased from a Lutheran congregation it had no confessional. It’s a small church and they have you just sit in the back with the priest and whisper you confession (honestly, it’s a little awkward…hard to hear as the train rolls right by the door and very easy to hear people who have a hard time whispering). Anyhow, they said it’s perfectly fine to go confession elsewhere if we prefer. But they didn’t really give us a step-by-step how to and it’s causing ridiculous anxiety on my part.
I’ve looked it up online and I find anything from the traditional way my mother grew up with to new ways…but nothing definitive. I’m guessing that priests get a few different ways and wouldn’t be too put out or shocked if someone comes in doing it slightly differently, but I’d just like to know what’s a person to do? If anyone can provide a step-by-step guide, I’d really appreciate it.