I really would love some Catholic advice on this dilemma of the heart…
Two months ago, an ex added me on facebook. We had not spoken in two years. Our relationship had been brief but intense, with a mutually strong connection (unlike any other), but with him holding a barrier towards deeper intimacy. The relationship ended with him saying that he could never see us getting married (odd, because that was not what I was after at that point!), yet he still clearly cared about me. His actions seemed to contradict his words (in my own opinion and in those of our mutual friends). BTW, he’s Jewish, early 30s but not a believer.
So I was shocked to hear from him now, but I eventually accepted the friend request and sent him a polite email saying that I was surprised to hear from him, good to see him doing well, and to drop me a line.
No response. Nothing, not a word 2 months later. And he’s still using his facebook (I’ve seen updates).
My question: Do I delete him? My friends say no. They see this as a control issue, for him to see if he can still keep me “around”, and to delete him would show him that he has gotten to me, thus feeding his ego.
I see what they mean but I still think that him giving someone NO RESPONSE to an email after he sought ME out is just plain rude and weird! I don’t really care for him to have access to my life!
I know he had his insecurities, and I remember him being deeply wounded and searching for more, so did God bring him back into my life for a reason? Do I leave him there? Or do I delete him and move on with my life? Maybe God was just showing me that he hadn’t changed.
So how does a Catholic deal with this? Thanks so much for any advice.