[quote=leaner]ok, I recognize this and see how it’s the “rule” (for lack of a better way to say it) but I just don’t understand why, if she’s not fertile, able to conceive, why is it an issue?? How can you remain “open” to something that temporarily doesn’t exist, kwim? I’m really just playing the opposite side of the table trying to figure out what lies beneath “the rule” – where/why it is what it is…
It is more than a “rule”. And, in your original post you referenced the idea that each act must be ‘open to life’. This is not framed corrrectly. What the church actually teaches is this:
Each sex act must be **objectively unitive and procreative ** to properly use the faculty as given by God. That means it is a full act, and no action is taken before, during, or after the act to alter it.
Any action before, during, or after that disrupts the objective procreative element or the objective unitive element is against God’s design of the act. Oral and manual stimulation outside intercourse is not unitive or procreative. Neither are any number of “other” activities. They are a perversion of the act.
Whether or not that act is subjectively procreative is irrelevant. Subjectively it may not be procreative b/c the woman or man is sterile, infertile, post-menopausal, pregnant, etc. But, objectively the act must still be complete as God designed and only as God designed. Anything else is a perversion of the act.