Not sure if this goes here, or in the family life forum, but I’m a nurse, and here’s the question.
Situation–aging married couple, one has dementia, one does not–are there any Church teachings (or private opinions) on the appropriateness of continuing sexual relations when consent is clearly dubious?
This is probably more of a woman’s issue because if the man isn’t interested, suffering from dementia or not, the act simply isn’t going to happen.
We had a nursin home patient whose husband would take her out, and they would have sex (she would indicate this to us by gestures after she came back–she was very aphasic). It was clearly painful for her. OTOH, she was always happy to see him, and never cried or shrank away when he visited or showed any fear.
Yes, our social worker got involved but the state laws are extremely vague about this. Both spouses are dead now, but this situation does happen occasionally.