OK. I don’t like the term “rights” as this sort of intimacy in marriage should be a free gift given each other. In another post I mentioned about my wife’s personality disorders. One of them is Obssessive compulsive personality disorder where she is in control of virtually everything.
For years since I also identified her severe OCD (fear of germs) as an issue, she has been angry and resentful toward me for identifying it. The anger and resentment also comes from NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). That is where she has a need to be perfect and not reveal flaws. When I proved to her she had OCD (staying up until 2,3 AM cleaning all the time) she became cold, angry, and resentful. She denied having any issues since the beginning of our marriage.
Anyway, over the years she has used sexual intimacy or lack of as a control issue. It was always on her schedule. I as her husband could never initiate. She would need to schedule it days in advance.
Most of the last 5 years she has slept in the living room to punish me so there has been no physical intimacy at all for almost 4 years and hardly any at all for the last 10. This has been VERY painful for me. Living with an angry, cold, resentful person.
There are many issues here, but this specific question is: Is it a sin to withold conjugal rights (don’t like that word) from your spouse to punish, control them? What kind of sin?
Thanks for your input and incites.