[quote=cove]The original poster asked for a non-political and, as I read into it, non-judgmental way to describe her uncle. Her uncle is a “practicing” Catholic. How good a Catholic he is, only God can judge. We know not what is in this man’s heart. Her uncle just may not have come to totally accept or truly understand certain teachings. That is why he is a “practicing” Catholic. Remember “practice makes perfect”.
I stand by my terms to describe Catholics except I will add one more–exCatholic.
Orthodox is not a term I am used to using to decribe a Roman Catholic. “Devout” is the term I grew up with and I will stick with.
The best way for Almost Catholic to handle this is to become Catholic and live her faith in a devout way and hope that she can make a differnce in her uncle’s life.
She can tell him he is heterodox without being unkind about it. It’s just a definition–a correct one for the way her uncle thinks and talks (the talking part being the most troubling part).
Everyone wants to be “non-judgmental” these days out of the desire to be merciful. But, we have to make judgments about what people are teaching others to protect all concerned.
We are to tell the truth with gentleness, kindness, and love, but we are to tell the truth. Softpeddling it doesn’t help anyone in the long run. It only reinforces the idea that everyone can believe whatever wants, and teach others that too, and still call himself a good Catholic. It just doesn’t work that way.