Thanks for the links! I guess my question is, what are some examples of grave matter when it comes to gossip/detraction? In the article Jimmy Akin mentioned someone losing their job or marriage as a result of detraction. Yes, I can definitely see that being one example. But do other smaller things constitute grave matter? Where do we draw the line?
For example, let’s say co-worker A is not good at her job. I talk to a co-worker B about person A, complaining about their annoying mistakes. Person B doesn’t have authority to fire anyone, and the mistakes themselves are not major as to put anyone’s job in danger. But as a result of my gossip, person B probably views her co-worker in a different light than before. It seems like person A’s reputation is negatively affected, at least in person B’s eyes. Grave sin? Why or why not?
Or, let’s say I’m talking to a friend who asks about another mutual friend of ours ("How has X been?) I tell her that friend X is going through serious financial problems that in my own opinion are due to her poor choices and inability to manage money. Now, I’ve previously told my friend X that her financial troubles are due to her own mistakes, so it’s nothing I wouldn’t say to my friend X’s face. But would it be a grave sin to reveal this to another mutual friend, provided that friend X didn’t specifically ask to keep it a secret? Why or why not?