We are in a very serious dilemma. My DH and I own a business and we have employees who are W2 and contract. There is one that is under contract who is a compulsive liar. My DH and I often introduce ourselves as co-workers of this fellow rather than as “bosses”. We don’t like to be saying to others that we are the owners. It’s kind of embarrasing and seems like if we are showing off or something. Anyhow, this guy has gone as far as lying about the ownership of the business. He has told many of his friends/relatives that he is the owner of the business. There is one time where he told this other guy that he owned the business and it turned out that this guy is a good friend of my DH and he mentioned to our co-worker, “Really? I thought, _____ was the owner…” (meaning my DH). Of course, this friend told my DH and this made my DH upset. The co-worker has lied about many other things. My SIL works with us and she once was trying to transfer a call to this guy and she noticed that his line kept ringing so that he could pick up. She had to go over to his office to tell him and as soon as he heard her steps going towards him, he picked up the phone and pretended to be on the phone (keep in mind that all this time another co-worker has been observing all of this without him noticing). So she tells him to pick up the line that its for him. He tells her that he is on the phone speaking to some client. She then tells him, “No, you are not, so pick up the line…it’s for you…”
Another incident, very important one, he tells another co-worker that he is fed up because at the office he feels that its a one way street. That he feels he does not get support from anyone. This other co-worker told my DH and DH became very upset because he always puts everything to a side to help out our employees and for him to be saying this, is like a stab on the back. Anyhow, he confronts him by asking him how he has been feeling lately and asks him if he feels that he gets enough support from the office and this guy answers postively. My DH is totally upset now because this guy tells our other co-worker one thing and he tells my DH something else. It seems to us that he has become greedy. He makes close to 200k a year and still wants to take more than he deserves. He lies on very important paper work and this makes us more concerned thinking that he can get us into trouble. He is our top sales guy, but sometimes we think that he just makes sales by lying on business apps. He has stolen clients from other co-workers/producers. He has done this because since he is our top producer, therefore, whenever some new client calls he goes over to the other producers desks and stands right behind them to the point where he can see their what is on their monitor and notices that they are working on client XYZ therefore, he then goes back to his desk and tells them that Mr. XYZ is supposed to come by to see him. BANG! he steals one from the others like that. The others totally believe him and give up and pass the client up to him because no one can really prove that he is stealing them.
I did not want to make this so long, but bottom line, we want to confront this guy, but don’t know how. Any ideas? Do we call him a liar straight up? Do we confront him with a bunch of lies that he has said? Or do we just let him go. Over all he is a nice guy, but starting to seem as a hypocrite. Very disturbing. He seems like he is sick! His lies are to the point where even he himself seems to believe him. By the way, everyone that knows him knows that he is a big time liar. He says lies like if it is the straight true. It’s really bad… HELP!