I am not Catholic. Neither is my husband. However, I have been trying to live the catholic faith for several years, and usually failing miserably. Originally the hold up was two annulments (now that those are finished- and granted- there is not much left keeping me from finishing RCIA). I have 5 children. My oldest 2 are from my first marriage. My husband and I have talked about this several times, and usually it ends in hi getting mad, and me feeling hurt, but he stopped talking and did it while I was out of town this week.
I was balancing the checkbook, and saw the charge, and asked him what it was for and he told me he had a vasectomy. I was in shock, then I cried all day. We never even got a chance to try NFP. I’m just so hurt, and angry, and disappointed, and angry, and hurt. We always said the next one will be Patrick, but he is trying his best to stop that. We don’t struggle for money- I don’t work, our kids have their problems, but they are happy. I never thought he would do this.
I feel like sex with him is wrong because we aren’t open to life anymore. I feel so betrayed, and like he has painted my soul into a corner. I need some help here.
I’m not looking for the obvious- It’s fine, I’m not yet confirmed so it’ll be okay- b/c it doesn’t feel like it will be okay.