Warning: LONG! It won’t let me put it all in one post
My husband is very devout. He has been since before we met. When we met I was 19 and he was 29. I was raised Catholic but at age 19 going to Church on Sunday was as far as I went in my faith. I had been engaged to someone before and had had numerous partners before. He also lived with a fiancee and had numerous partners. He converted in 2001 (was raised with no religion) and we met in 2003 so he had already changed for 2 years before we met
When we started dating we started “messing around” for lack of better words. We never had sex and never even came close. Just did more than he thought was right. After a few months he informed me he couldn’t do anything at all before marriage and explained why. When he told me the teachings the Church had, I was fine with it. We stopped doing anything intimate until our wedding date
We were married about 13 months after we met. The first two weeks of the marriage our intimate life was what I would consider “normal” whatever that means. LOL. Just like newlyweds without getting in to too much detail. We conceived our first child 2 months later. Almost as soon as I became pregnant, any interest he had in me seem to end. We did not have any type of sexual contact the entire pregnancy. I figured maybe cause I was pregnant and it weirded him out. I had the baby. However, even after things didn’t seem quite right. He rarely if ever initiated sex with me, never seemed interested in me, did not seem attracted to me, did not compliment me or anything. When we decided to have another child when our first was 10 months old, he seemed somewhat willing to have sex but I still had to tell him things like “hey i’m ovulating. We should probably “try” today”. Nothing ever spontaneous or out of his own idea. I got pregnant quickly so we really only “tried” for 2 months. Again, entire pregnancy and 2 months post partum we didn’t touch eachother. He never made an attempt. If I did, he was so reluctant I gave up trying.