In an online forum i came about the post of a pregnant women asking for help. Her pregnancy was unplanned, already 2 children from a failed marriage and the father of her next child had already 3 children from his failed marriage. He tried to pressure her into having an abortion for several weeks.
To get rid of his pressure, she then told him, she already had an abortion, although she was still pregnant.
Her questions was, whether she did the right thing and whether and how she should tell him.
I told her she should not worry about lying to him, as what he was doing was commiting a crime, to get her to kill their child, and hence her lying was akin to self-defense necessary to protect her child’s life. And that she should, if necessary, continue to lie till she is beyond the legal limit for abortion (she had just 2 weeks “to go”).
Did i sin by encouraging her to continue lying as necessary?
While not relevant for this question, she continued to deceive him - maybe by just not talking about it - for the next two weeks and then told him she lied and is still pregnant. According to her, he was pretty angry with her for several days but then apologized and his attitude about being father for a fourth time became positive.