This is more directed at women but men are welcome to comment.
When you were a child did you imagine that your adult life would be similar to that of your mother?
I’m sure I though many things about my adult life would be similar to what I perceived of my mother’s life but I never really wanted to be just like her. She did so much housework and that seemed so terribly dreary to me. I guess I took it for granted that I’d be a mother some day but I never had any desire to care for a baby. I did NOT like helping my mother care for my infant siblings. I did play with some dolls and stuffed toys but not BABY dolls. I was more orchestrator of how these toys would live their lives; I was not a mother figure.
I remember telling people I wanted to be a nurse or a writer when I grew up. I think that was because nursing and teaching were the two professions women I knew belonged to. And I evidently knew that some writers were women. (The strange thing is that I hated writing as a child.) I can’t imagine I’d have made a very good nurse. When I was a tween and young teen I’d tell people I wanted to be an engineer like my Dad. That wasn’t exactly what happened but I did at one point have the job title of ‘software engineer’.