What if there is *something biologically inherent in us that motivates our preferences? And what if you can even show that, on the whole, young females will prefer to play with dolls and young males will prefer to play with cars? What does it mean for the rest of us? Well, nothing, really. If anything, it proves that *our preferences are also inborn and natural.
However, *forcing *all boys to act like the majority of boys and forcing all girls to act like the majority of girls is wrong. No less wrong than concluding that boys are on average taller than girls and then, based on that, stretching short boys on racks to make them taller and cutting tall girls' legs to make them shorter.
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As I child I played with cars and robots, hated anything girly, refused to wear skirts, to the point I am almost positive had I lived now a days in the US I would have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria.
This was me too and I also wanted to be a boy. I even cut my hair short and pretended to be a boy among children who didn't know me - not because I was dissatisfied with my body, but so I would be accepted by boys and allowed to play war with them. My mother, a psychologist, had a very significant conversation with me: she asked me why I wated to be a boy:
- Because boys get to do all the fun stuff: climb trees, play war, get dirty...
- You can do all those things as a girl, my mother said.
So I did and still do.
I have worn high heels exactly once - at my wedding - and vowed never to do such a masochistic thing again. Ditto for makeup - limiting and boring.
I'm the financial provider in my family, and my husband is a SAHD. He does the dishes and the laundry and the cleaning. I pay the bills and take care of other outside chores.
And I am convinced I am entirely and happily a woman - because I have a functional set of female sexual organs that I happily use. I am now pregnant with our third child.
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High heels are for men, just to be clear. Oops, boundaries just got shaky.
The fact is, it doesn't matter too much what the choice of clothing is, what matters is a combination of what is normal in your society and why you're going against that. Unless the Church has an official stance (if they do, please point me to it for my betterment) then I really don't care too much for rules on what's for boys and what's for girls.
Yes, in general I'm sure girls like one thing and boys another, but for those of us who fall on the other side of the line I don't think we're in trouble, unless it's problematic (SSA, transgender, etc...)
Indeed. I do believe fewer people would feel the need to identify as "transgender" if we didn't have such narrow ideas of what is appropriate for a certain gender. More importantly, fewer people would be transsexual - thinking they had to mutilate their genitals in order to fit in - if they were allowed from a young age to pursue their preferences and interests - their genitals notwithstanding.