I have always been one to be more of a saver than a spender. Don’t get me wrong, I have made big purchase that racked up the credit cards, But overall I do like to nickel and dime things. ie I will bring my lunch to work, meet friends for coffee instead of lunch, go to the discount theatres instead of paying $13 for a movie.
The issue is, people seem to think I am poor. Although I am less well off than I use to be, I still can live OK. The reason I don’t like to spend on entertainment is because I will be in the market for a new car in 7 years and am hoping to pay cash.
I know people who I suspect (because I never come out and ask) are probably in the same income bracket as me or perhaps earning a bit more. From what these people say, they have car loans and the thought of saving up to pay cash for a car is just not on their radar.
I respect that they have different priorities. However, it has gotten to the point that at times, they will offer to pay for my meal to get me to go out with them. I don’t think it is right for me to accept since I genuinly do not intend to return the favour. And whenever, I suggest a cheap activity like coffee in the afternoon instead of lunch, they roll their eyes. I suspect some people just really hate cooking.
I am starting to wonder how to handle this. I remember when I was a kid, my mom told me, ‘some people just can’t have fun unless money is involved’. She was referring to a bunch of men that would never go golfing with my dad, because my dad NEVER played for money. So I am wondering, is there such a stigma? Do some people just not know what to do with themselves unless they are spending money?