My wife and I (we are both Catholic) are friends with a married couple who have 3 girls under the age of 8 years old. The husband/father is Jewish, although he’s more of a cultural Jew than an religious Jew. The wife converted (or diverted…however you want to look at it) to Judism from a Protestant Christian Tradition. After about 13 years of marriage, it seems to be falling apart. Apparently, he’s been verbally abusive and she retaliates by making expensive purchases. Our friendship is relatively new so we don’t really know how long this distructive pattern has been going on. They have individually been seeing Psychiatrists but it obviously doesn’t seem to be helping much. (Not a suprise since many Psychiatrists ignore the spiritual dimension of the human person and disregard the supernatural bond of marriage.) I believe he’s been recently diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, which may be part of the cause for his verbal abuse. I believe he’s on medication for this.
The bottom line is we would like to help them in some way. Certainly with prayer, sacrifice, and Mass offerings. Both have confided in us, mainly my wife. One thing we were going to suggest to them is to pray together for 9 days straight (kind of like a Jewish Novena) but am looking for prayer suggestions. I was going to suggest having them read from the “Psalms”, “Song of Songs”, or “Proverbs” but these are not books contained in the Torah. I’m specifically looking for something that will lead each one to recognize that they are called in marriage to a life of constant and unselfish service to each other and to the family unit. (We are blessed as Catholics to have Christ and His Church as our model for this.)
Any suggestions on Jewish or Old Testament prayers that may fit this situation or other suggestions on how we may help? Thank you in advance and God Bless.