I recently discovered a good friend of mine has decided to take the path of becoming a priest. Is it wrong of me to come to the conclusion that he should not go forward with a decision i find to be a potential mistake?
Should come forward and express my opinion to him?
You say your friend has decided to become a priest, therefore he has, I would assume, to have thought a lot about it before making his decision. You may find it to be a mistake; he obviously does not.
Rather than discourage him, I would pray for him that it’s the right decision that he’s making.
**DIVINE MERCY PRAYER FOR VOCATIONS
Lord Jesus, transform the hearts and lives of
those You are calling to serve as priests, brothers
and sisters in your Church.
Make them living reflections of Your Heart and
channels of Your Mercy to others.
Open their eyes to see Your presence in souls
around them; open their ears to the appeals of others;
inspire them with Your message of forgiveness and
comfort; strengthen them for the service of those in
need as You prepare them to reflect Your Mercy.
Lord Jesus, call many generous souls to Your service,
and transform them into ministers of Your Mercy, for
You can do all things. Amen.**
I speak as a seminarian when I say you should sit down and talk with your friend as to why you think he shouldn’t become a priest, but first examine your own motivations in wanting to talk him out of it, do you think he is not called to it? or is it for other reason?
Either way if he’s anything like me it won’t be anything he hasn’t thought of/should think of himself. friends of mine have spoken to me about my decision, so far I have found their views stem from misunderstandings on their part rather than anything else but I still appreciate their opinion and input as I know that they are motivated by genuine concern for me.
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Are you discouraging him for his sake or yours? The priesthood is a huge calling for anyone who has recieved it, and don’t make this young man ashamed of his decision. Would you feel the same way if he were enlisting in the Marine Corps?
One subject that isn’t talked about nearly enough here is our shortage of priests, and the even more dire shortage of good priests. We should be encouraging, not DIS-couraging vocations.
I hope you pray for your friend… I know I will be praying for him.
By discouraging i guess i mean disagreeing. If he went to the seminary, i would support him? Yes. Do i think it is a good choice? for him, for some reason, no. Maybe my thinking is based on my own feelings of my friend taking this path, which is wrong. I feel as if him going to the seminary means sacrificing my current friendship, maybe i’m wrong about that. Thank you to all who replied
I understand your view after reading all the replies.
But I just want to tell you that a good friendship stays for ever and nor the distance could change that. If i take my case, i’m french and i left my best friend to live in Quebec. That was hard, but despite the distance, we are in touch. Furthermore i will start the seminary like your best friend in september, and do you know the reaction of my best friend? He said to me : if you are happy and if it’s your way, I ll always support you and be with you. Those words helped me too much.
A good friend of mine recently applied to a nearby seminary. I am completely in love with him and have been for 4 years now. He is my best friend and I really thought we had a future together. I am completely shocked by his sudden decision, he is such a smart, young, handsome man with a bright future. I am aware his family thinks he has not though it through as well as others who have thought the same.
Thoughts and opinions?
He’d probably be a great seminarian, however I am overcome by such sadness.
Seminary is a process of discernment. It’s not taking someone out of the world altogether. If you and others are right that he hasn’t thought it through properly, then this will become apparent during the application process (to just gain entry to a seminary course one has to endure rigorous interviews and psychological testing) and then there’s six years for him to be observed and for the Church to ascertain whether he’s suitable for priesthood.
Let me say this: if he’s not suitable, he won’t last the course. If he is, then nobody should stand in his way: that would be denying him a wonderful vocation. Instead you should be supporting him with love and prayers rather than hoping that he’ll fall at the first hurdle.
He obviously thinks he has a vocation. Let him test it. The fact that you think of him as a wonderful person is a good thing, even if it’s a little bit of a wrench for you to let go of the idea of him in your future that you’d built up in your mind.
Better that he’s a happy priest living his vocation than a less than happy man in a marriage he was never quite suitable for, surely?
I feel for you Rationalist, I really do, but trust me on one thing its not a snap decision especially not at home in Ireland these days. That being said you should speak to him about his decision and if the situation seems right, about your feelings for him. Not necessarily to discourage him, but to present him with all the facts as it were.you never know you still might have a future together.
Now I don’t know all the details particular to your case but if he does have a call to the Priesthood the relationship doesn’t have to end, it is(if you can manage it) only changed I know a man going for the priesthood needs good close friends outside of the seminary and having female friends is still allowed! a deep, chaste friendship is one of the best gifts a priest can have.
Oh Please! they are both trying to discern God’s will, He’s not a priest or even a seminarian yet(only an applicant to seminary). Now is the time they both have to try and figure out God’s Plan! its not competing with God for someone