I have a question that encompasses a few different things. The first question is 'was our marriage prep valid in the eyes of the Church?'
My fiance and I are living 250 miles apart from each other and have been doing our marriage prep long distance. The priest we asked to do our marriage prep was someone I thought would not be afraid to bluntly ask us questions about our thoughts and actions towards marriage (i.e. have we ever slept together, do we plan on using contraception, etc.). It seemed that he took it all very lightly and my fiance has expressed her deep dissatisfaction with the whole experience. The priest doing our prep asked us to use the website 'catholicmarriageprep.com' which covered everything sexual in detail and then did a very brief overview of our financial habits, psychological health, etc. The priest did not bother asking too many other questions about us and although he knows me pretty well, my fiance feels that he did not even try to get to know her and her background, beliefs, etc. We met twice with the priest, did the online prep course, and then he told us that he would give his consent saying we had his approval to get married. Is this still going to be valid? Also, we are getting married in one Diocese and the priest doing the prep is from another Diocese. We did get permission from the Church where we will be married to have the aforementioned priest to do our prep.
2nd Question: Is my fiance overreacting? or am I not giving this the attention that it deserves?
I realize this is hard to determine just by reading about our circumstances, but I am hoping for some helpful input/observations. My fiance feels that we are not prepared enough for this huge change in our lives because of the seemingly lax marriage prep we received and she would like to postpone the wedding (6 months to a year). I was also disappointed in our prep experience but feel that God has called us to marry each other and that we have a very good foundation from which to start this journey. I think that postponing the wedding to do a more in depth marriage prep seems unreasonable and a bad idea. We are planning on getting married this August and will have been together for 14 months. I think we know each other well enough (as well as we can without being married). I definitely plan on praying about this but should I be more concerned?
Thanks for any input and/or advice.