Back in the early 1960s when I got married there was a pamphlet that gave as an example of conflict between husband and wife that one feels one ought to squeeze the toothpaste tube at the end and the other is sloppy about squeezing it in the middle.
I wonder if the divorce rate may be caused by the fact that in our changing culture everybody does not have the same rules. I have been told that I want my marriage to be like that of my aunt and my Hispanic uncle. They seemed to discuss everything with each other. Which groceries to buy and what color curtains to put up and everything. My ethnic background is German and so is my husband but I think his upbringing must have included rebelling German cultural traits having to do with authority, rules and order.
Wouldn’t the best solution to the problem with the toothpaste be that both get in the habit of squeezing it at the end? I am not sure I agree with the solution that enforces the right of both to have their own toothpaste and do their own thing. I don’t think such rights even if it is true that they exist are that important.
I think both agreeing to the more orderly habit is going to make it possible for children to be trained in rules that keep things less chaotic in the bathroom and in the home. If the wife has to work there is a need for such discipline. If one is planning on following the teachings of the church on birth control there is a need parental agreement on household rules. .