No offense, sugar, but some of us “divorced women” are faithful Catholics who happen to have decrees of nullity. IOW, we are perfectly free to marry in the Church. So don’t automatically assume “Oh she’s divorced, so she’s obviously not free and also a relationship loser already.”
I’m 53 and if I were interested in dating, umm, don’t y’all think the pool of men is rather heavily 'divorced men?" Plus, most of y’all (not all of course) want to date women about 20 years younger, so the men who’d want to be dating me would be in their 70s. The 50 year olds want to be dating 30 year old women. (again of course this is not every 50 year old male, but it is a large majority).
Tell y’all what. If I were looking for ‘companionship’ with no thought of any other relationship, I’d look for men and women of all ages who happened to share some of my interests. So if you want ‘companionship’ in that way, go join a local club.
If you’re thinking of ‘companionship and maybe a relationship’ and strictly opposite sex here, then look for the qualities that you absolutely need. If you’re a strong Catholic, then you want a strong Catholic as well. If your focus for the relationship is finding a person with whom your relationship will redound to God’s glory, well and good.
But if you’re going into a relationship idea thinking about all the ‘deal-breakers’ like, “She’s too heavy”, “too loud”, “too much jewelry”, “too mousy”, “too quiet”, “too much family”, “not enough family”, “out too much”, “not out enough”, “goes to church but not as much as I do”, “Goes to church too often”, “likes loud guitars at Mass”, “doesn’t like guitars at Mass”. . .well, y’all get the idea. You’re ‘shopping’ and that means you’re treating a person like a thing, and not a person. (Yes, we women are guilty of this too. Less on the ‘physical things’ but we tend to overlook men for some pretty shallow reasons too, sadly.)
But I wish you the best of luck in finding a relationship if that is what you truly desire, and if you have prayed, and it is God’s will.