I grew up Protestant. My girlfriend is Catholic and very committed to the faith, something that I find very encouraging. I attend mass with her on regular basis. We have been together for over two years and marriage is the horizon, but there is an issue.
I was married and I am now divorced. My divorce came about under some unusual and sad circumstances where my ex-wife left me after 6 years of marriage.
Understandably, I was very upset, but in the long run it was for the best, but not something I wish anyone to have to experience. My ex and I had no children. Due to the circumstances of the divorce I wanted an annulment in part, because I started dating a Catholic women and in part for my personal reasons.
An annulment was granted by the Catholic marriage tribunal a little over 1.5 years after my girlfriend and I became a couple. Not everything is perfect as in any relationship, but we love each other very much. I want to marry her and I believe she wants to marry me, but an issue keeps coming up for her that she is finding it very difficult to accept and if it continues to get worse or not get better I don’t know how we will be able to take the next step. My girlfriend is having a really hard time accepting the fact that I was married before. It really bothers her. I was very upfront with her and told her that I had been separated for a year when we started dating–it takes a full year of separation before a divorce can be granted where I live. I told her all of the details of my seperation and that I was getting divorced and that I would be seeking an annulment and one has bee granted. I just don’t know how my girlfriend and I can work through her discomfort that I was “married”. I know she loves me and would like to spend her life with me as my wife and me as her husband–I am very thankful to God for this second chance—but I don’t know how to support her and work through this concern of hers. Any advice???