[quote="Everstruggling, post:1, topic:20610"]
Several years ago my girlfriend of the time got pregnant, we decided that we should have an abortion (I was raised Catholic, but left the Church, my girlfriend never was). The baby was not baptised obviously, so will it go to heaven? I am still not a practicing Catholic, but I am reconsidering my views.
I know this might seem a strange thing to say, but I can deal with the idea of being an accomplice to a murder much or easily than I can deal with the idea that I have kept my child away from God.
I realize that my admition is not going to make me all that popular on this board, but if someone could at least set my mind at ease about my child's soul, I'd really appreciate it.
Peace be with you, Everstruggling. You've gotten several good answers. It is true, we cannot know the eternal fate of your child... but at the same time, God is Love and Mercy. It would be a cruel God who would condemn every unbaptized aborted child to hell because they didn't meet a sacramental through no fault of their own.
Likewise, I don't think a just God would extend salvation to ALL children in this situation, if they would have gone on to reject God from their lives. In this way we must all remember that while it is possible that an aborted child could go to heaven, it is just as possible for such a child to go to hell. The judgement is God's and so we are to view abortion as deadly evil because it cuts short the child's time to discover God in THIS world before being put before judgement by whatever standard a loving and merciful but just God uses to determine the fate of these poor souls.
So I think it best to say that we cannot know what your child's ultimate fate was, but that you should take comfort in knowing that God is compassionate and does not punish the child for the actions of its parents. There is at least chance that your child was given the free will choice to love God and therefore to accept eternal salvation.
As to your popularity here... you've been through a difficult decision. I don't think any of us can judge you or your specific situation, nor are we allowed to. We are all sinners here, and all of us need God's mercy to have any hope of salvation. Your contrition doesn't make you unpopular here... it makes you one of the fold. I hope you find the peace you are looking for and that you'll take the time to talk to a priest, potentially in the confessional, but even outside as a prelude to coming back to the church.
Perhaps I'm being a little wishful in my thinking here, but welcome back home to the Church.