I grew up with the NO, when I was born the TLM was long gone. I went to my first TLM on quinquagesima sunday and again last sunday.
For the congregation, because of the focus on participation in the new mass itself, there’s very little time where you’re not “scripted” to do something. Also, there’s a lot of “customization” ability that the priest has with the mass; many choices available for this, that is optional, the other can be done a few different ways, etc.
The old mass is almost the opposite on both accounts: the congregation has a lot of time in between actions or responses, due to the mass itself not focussing on participation. And the priest’s actions and words are strictly “rubricized”: there is no customizability, so yuo get the same thing every time.
Growing up with the new mass, because everything is so heavily scripted, there is no time for personalization between you and God. People say that the “audience” participation is the personalization of the mass with the people, but I don’t really think so. All of the actions, responses, prayers, etc. become automatic and robotic, and your mind would be off somewhere else.
I don’t know how many times the lector would read from scripture, “The Lord be with you…” and up to half of the congregation would all of a sudden say, “and also with you…” There’s very little in between where we can meditate on the mass itself.
In the TLM this is the opposite. I found that whatever few responses we have, it’s not robotic and automatic. And there’s plenty of time where you can meditate on the mass itself, the particular liturgy isn’t formed to “keep us busy” or “engaged” from beginning to end. I found the time to say one of the prayers before communion, something I couldn’t do before.
It sounds odd, but the mass that requires more participation lets my mind wander whereas the mass with the least for me to do I stay focussed. :o
This is all just my personal opinion and preferences. Both masses are valid. Same as others like different kinds of ice cream, I like the TLM. I’m a vanilla kinda guy