For your information, a sense of humor is essential when dealing with the works of the Evil One.
I already sense a fallacy in your argument, namely that there is hardly ever an either/or answer, but quite often there are 3, 4 or more options available.
I am surprised at your distress, because it is not the inhuman system that disturbs you, but the doctrine of life and love of Holy Mother Church. You do not seek for the monstrous system to change, but for Holy Mother Church to change her teachings, as if she had somehow “invented” them, as if she had some authority on the matter, not realizing that the Church cannot teach contrary to that which is the expressed, clear teaching of Christ.
It is not the first time that we experience persecution in the world out of faith for Christ. In the past, the risk was between our immortal souls and having our head cut off or being fed to wild beasts with our spouse and kids. In this specific circumstance, there are other risks involved in being a faithful disciple of Christ, but still.
However we all know well that there are other ways to avoid offending the Lord, namely chastity and continence, as well as (if possible, given the availability of knowledge on the matter) of the natural cycles of the body as in Natural Family Planning.
It is not up to you and me to weigh on the supernatural scale which sin is heavier, contraception or abortion. Both gravely offend the Lord, and that’s all we should care about.
Neither should we judge the actions of those who, out of some degree of ignorance, or out of great psychological pressure, may commit a sin in order to avoid persecution.
But yes, our calling is to holiness, and holiness includes the willingness to bear suffering and to accept persecution to the greatest extent. That is what Christ did, and that is the least we can do to be worthy of His name.