Ok, something has realy been bugging me lately at work and I have not said anything in order to not create a ‘wave’, but my behaviour has been seeping through in other ways that should stop.
Here is the situation. A big wig at work ask to speak to me to discuss my career goals (he approached me). He asked me if I would like to do a job like ‘Sally’s’ to which I said ‘yes’. 3 days later it is announced that Sally has found something better and would be leaving. The big wig encouraged me to apply for the job as well as another internal job. That was 6 weeks ago. I was never contacted for an interview for the second job (although I was asked to apply for it). I did have an interview for Sally’s old job. Then my dad passed away. My immediate manager told the hiring manager that I was out of town for the funeral. Well…enough time passed that I knew I would not be getting Sally’s job.
Finally one day out of the blue the hiring manager (ie Sally’s old boss) asked to speak to me alone. She brought me to a private room and as we were walking there said ‘So your dad just passed away’ I said yes that is I was gone last week. To which she replied ‘I wasn’t here either my daughter was sick’. She did not even say 'I am sorry about your loss after she was the one who brought it up !!!
The second the door was closed she told me, she offered the job to someone else. I was shocked. Not because I did not get the job but that someone would go out of their way to bring up something painful right before she was about to give me more bad news. And I still can’t get over the fact she didn’t say ‘sorry for your loss’
So… I feel treated unfairly. If anything I feel treated like a fool. Asked to apply for a job and not even get an interview ! Now… if I say something to the big wig, my concern is he will think ‘I was trying to help you if you can’t be grateful why should I help you again’. I don’t think he sees how he totally got my hopes up and it hurts. (Lord knows I got my hopes up so often in the past only not to get the job, while I was unemployed and my ‘friends’ just made fun of me) It hurts to have to go to 50 interviews for every 1 job I get. And No that is NOT an exageration
So, I can’t keep up like this because I am being passive aggressive at work. But I don’t really know what their is to say. I am not 100% comfortable asking for my managers advice because it seems she is stressed about personal stuff right now.