I'd rather not for many reasons.
But, my recently separated sister (age 43) has received a proposal from her online boyfriend. She has three children ages 6, 4, 6 months. She is living with and is fully financially supported by my retired parents ages 65 and 71.
The husband she just left was a thief,a chronic liar, an adulterer, emotionally abusive, controlling, and an all around bad guy.
Her first husband was a jerk, abusive, porn addict, heavy drinker, controlling and had a few redeeming qualities--like he actually worked and didn't steal from my family or anyone else. He also didn't lie. She actually married him in the Church, but did not obtain an annulment. Her Pastor did say she had an easy case, though. Neither intended to have children.
Her first serious boyfriend and the father of her oldest son was an alcoholic, drug abuser/dealer, abusive.
So, she has a track record of lousy.
I know about the proposal because he did it on Facebook. :rolleyes: Though, I guess he had previously texted her it. Or, maybe they did have an actual phone conversation. I'm not sure. He lives several hundred miles away. They have never actually met in person. I did run him through the online bases for sexual offenders. No hits came up.
So.......do I engage her in a conversation of how stupid this is? Or, with the odds being that she won't listen to me, should I play Switzerland and try to preserve some semblance of a relationship and access to my nephews? Should I contact this guy at all or encourage my brother to do this (I doubt he would).
My mom makes some effort to talk to her about her choices, but mostly she's given up. My dad just wants a peaceful home. They don't have any restrictions on her or ask her for any help in the home. In fact, my mom and dad are doing most of the childcare.
From a nonpractical point, as a Catholic, do I have a responsibility to talk to her about the morality of the situation?
She's a lazy/half committed Catholic. She'll say she's Catholic, but doesn't really practice. Though she had a year of fervent practice ten years ago.