[quote="Lucky_Scrunchy, post:1, topic:249075"]
When my next door neighbor moved in next door I made repeated attempts at being friendly, only to receive an obvious attitude of "don't bother me" vibe. They have never ever gone out of their way to even say hello. I even went to the extent of bringing them a bag of peaches from my tree and a little dessert. They were polite and accepted it but still, even after that, they exhibited an apparent lack of interest in any friendship or just a say hello type of neighbor.
So I now just ignore them. When they drive up to their house and I'm outside, I don't acknowledge them or even look at them. They seem to want nothing to do with me. (and yes I know its not all about me :) ).
Am I acting unforgiving?
What did your neighbors do that needs forgiving? Did they tresspass against you in any way, except by not writing you a thank you note for the fruit and dessert?
Some people just aren't naturally friendly. You could pray that God softens their hearts a bit.
But it's been my experience that most people, at least in the US, are so overwhelmed just trying to survive that they get into the mindset that everybody outside of their little sphere might turn out to be one more thing their going to have to worry about, so they're suspicious of all newcomers into their world. The women who lives in the condo to our north, for example, came out of retirement last year because her unemployed son and his unemployed wife moved in with her after they lost their home. The couple of lives directly west of us both work two jobs and are home just long enough to sleep. The young man on the other side of us lost his job as a firefighter, he's back in school getting trained to do something else, he's scared he's going to lose his condo, and his wife walked out on him in January and took their 1-year-old daughter with her. He has no money for an attorney, and she's not letting him see his kid.
Except for the ex-firefighter, the rest of out neighbors give off a distinct "leave me alone" vibe because they're simply overwhelmed. It's sad.
I wouldn't take it personally.