I truly hope you understand I was not being judgmental. I shared a bit of my story to illustrate how much can change over time. Decisions made at one stage of life can have unhappy consequences that last many years and can cause much sadness.
Of course, I hope you and your BF have a life long happy marriage. But the reality is that people do change, sometimes radically, over time. It is always a good idea to discuss how you will both handle differences of faith and how those differences could effect your lives together. It's not uncommon for people who are thinking of marrying to be so in love and happy with each other that they don't think of some practical concerns that could arise and have no plan on how they will deal with those things as a couple. Finances, sex, child rearing and on and on. The details matter. A priest during pre-marriage counseling will likely bring up subjects you and your BF might not have thought much about.
I'll use your post numbers and maybe be helpful by giving you food for thought.
1) No desire to teach or join luturgical ministry - Sure, that is true right now. But things change. You may become close friends with fellow parishioners and find yourself asked to be a godparent. You may decide you want to teach children later.
2) Doubtful a parish would delay Baptism- I doubt that, as well, but I am one who likes to dot all i's and cross all t's. More now than when I was younger.
3) You understand the Catholic teachings on marriage and have found a good man - I am happy for you! Good men seem harder and harder to find. Of course you want to keep yours.
You understand than marriage is for life and that divorce is not possible from a religious standpoint. If the marriage were to fail for some unforeseen reason, it may not be possible for an annulment to be granted and you would be unable to remarry within the Church. If you remarried civilly and remained Catholic you wouldn't be able to receive the Sacraments and you'd be in the same boat I'm in. It's a cruddy boat.Your BF would be able to go on with his life and remarry at will with no problems from his church because he is Protestant. It's very important that he fully understand what marriage means to Catholics. As a former Protestant I can tell you there is a big cultural difference there. Most religious people do take vows before God seriously, but Protestants tend to keep divorce as a valid option in the back of their minds because divorce with no religious implications is so common.
4,5,6)** Welcoming place, no problem raising children Catholic and no Catholic persecution, location etc.** - It's wonderful you have found a church that you both like and that the BF is willing to attend and that he has no problem marrying there or with the children you hope to have being raised Catholic. However, it's not uncommon for a couple to make agreements before the children come along and to go back on those agreements later. Not because they were being dishonest, but because having a real child in the flesh is vastly different from having one in theory. It's very important your BF fully understands the rituals and traditions of the Church and how those rituals and traditions will effect the whole family on a daily basis. Not just a general idea, but full understanding.
And, yes, there are people who have serious issues with Catholicism today. Protestants who think we're idol worshipers, atheists who think anyone religious is a nutter and that Catholics are the worst of the lot, people who genuinely believe the Church is evil and no one should be a part of it because of the sex abuse scandals, people who think that the Church's teachings on abortion, contraception, marriage etc. are outdated and who make fun of those teachings and so on. Kids, especially, can be cruel and it's not outside the realm of possibility that your future children may be open about their religion to the wrong person/people and get teased, picked on, made fun of. If you are open about your faith (using the general you) at some point at work, at school, on the bus...whatever...someone is bound do do or say something cruel. Those kind of people cannot always be avoided, especially in the workplace or public schools. I'm in MI, near Detroit, and I have run into some prejudice recently. You'd think people would behave with more tolerance and understanding in modern times, but you still get the occasional throwback.
Anywho, just some food for thought.