I have a question regarding some sins that I previously confessed. For the reasons that I'll explain, I'm not sure that they were confessed properly and I'm wondering if I need to re-confess them.
I am a convert, and made my first confession as an adult. Obviously, I had many years of mortal sins to account for, including those committed as a child and teenager. My first confession was actually invalid, for reasons that I won't go into here. (It was my fault, and definitely invalid. I later re-confessed all of these sins.) In this first confession, the priest basically walked me through everything, asking me if I had committed various sins and asking me to name the number of times, etc...as necessary, because I didn't know how to make a good confession.
When we got to the sixth commandment, he first asked me if I had committed any impure acts between the ages of five and fourteen. I said that yes, I had. He did not ask me to list the number of times, or to explain the exact nature of those sins, circumstances, if others were involved, etc...He just said ok and then moved on, asking me about sins against purity from the age of 15 and on. For these sins, he asked me to be more specific - were they committed alone or with others, number of times, etc...So the sins against the sixth commandment that I committed from age 15 and on were confessed in much more detail.
I assumed that this was acceptable, and when I re-confessed these sins, I followed more or less the same pattern. I told the priest (a different one) that I had committed impure acts between the ages of five and fourteen. I think that I asked him if he needed any more details, but he didn't respond and started talking, so I assumed that the way that I had confessed those sins was fine.
I then confessed the sins committed from age 15 on in more detail, as I had done before - alone or with others, and other relevant details. However, I was fairly nervous and the priest kept asking me if I was finished, and I think that I forgot to quantify those sins. So from age 15 on, I definitely mentioned the "type" of sins against purity, but I think that I forgot to number them.
My first three questions are:
Was the way that I confessed sins against purity between the ages of five and 14 acceptable, or should I re-confess, stating the type of sin more specifically and number of times? The "general" way that I confessed seemed to be acceptable to two priests, both of whom seemed fairly orthodox.
Do I need to re-confess the number of times that I committed the sins against purity from age 15 on? Like I said, I think that I forgot to mention the number of times, although I'm not actually sure because it was several months ago. I think that I did not mention the number of times for many other sins in that confession, as well.
Since some time has passed, I can no longer remember for which sins I confessed a number of times and for which sins I did not. At the time, I knew that it was "better" to confess number of times, but I did not know that it was obligatory. Should I make yet another general confession?
I have some additional questions that have to do with a sin against purity that I committed at either the age of 14 or 15 - I can't remember exactly when I committed it, so I mentioned it with the sins committed at age 15+. Basically, I hugged someone, and I think that I may have had some impure feelings while I did this. I'm not sure, though, since it was almost 20 years ago and I can't really remember. In fact, I had actually forgotten about it, but remembered it before I did the second general confession. So I decided to confess it to be safe. However, the priest did not allow me to get through everything on my list in the second general confession, so I had to go through the second half of my list in a third general confession. In the third general confession, I read the second half of my long list of lifelong sins, and mentioned a few new sins that I had committed recently.
I wasn't sure how to explain this sin (hugging) quickly and without going into unnecessary detail. In the second general confession, I confessed it as a "small impure act, committed as a teenager, I think two or three times." The priest (a third one) did not ask for more detail. After that, I started to worry that I had not been clear enough and I re-confessed it as something like "hugging someone with impure sentiments, two or three times." I did not mention any qualities of the other person involved. Again, the priest (a fourth one) did not ask for any more details.
My questions are as follows:
Does my vague description of the sin render that entire confession invalid? Did I commit a sacrilege? Do I need to re-confess all sins mentioned in that confession?
Do I need to re-confess this sin (hugging, with possible impure feelings, 2 or 3 times) and mention some qualities of the other person involved? (I obviously would just mention some general characteristics, not their name or anything like that.)
My final question has to do with some money that I stole as a young woman. I confessed stealing, but did not mention a monetary amount, mainly because it was over a decade ago and I don't remember. The priest did not ask me to elaborate on this, so I thought that it was not essential.
- Should I re-confess this and try to estimate how much money it could have been, mentioning that I just can't remember the exact amount?
Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm sorry for this long post!