Hi all! My last 2 posts have involved in-law issues, and I want advice. A little background, my husband has a mother and 2 younger sisters. I feel like his mom always accepted me, but I do have some issues with butting heads over things while she stays with us for long periods of time. I feel like the sisters, in particular one, have never really accepted me. The ONLY reason I care is because my husband wants them in his life, so I have to continue to deal with them. But, at the same time, it kinda hurts and makes me wonder what’s wrong with me.
So, the issues I’m having is that I’ve gotten to the point where I’m finally being assertive toward them, and they’re not used to that. But, the biggest issue I’m having is probably a pride issue. I feel like I’ve been disrespected so many times throughout the years by the sisters, but I bit my tongue for my husband’s sake. I also really do hate drama, even when I feel I’m in the right.
I have felt like writing them an email and explaining all the times I felt disrespected and how I didn’t deserve it, and if they want to maintain a relationship with their brother and niece, they’ll start treating me better. But then I KNOW that would just open a huge can of worms. I’m a fairly new Catholic, and am trying so hard to ask myself what Jesus would do. He said to turn the other cheek and love our enemies.
So, do I let the past go and continue to assert myself in the future? Or do I unload all this on them?