His book was reviewed in the Chicago Tribune religion section last year, and there is another thread in this forum about a similar subject - I think it is entitled “Where have all the real men gone?”.
In my view, it is not so much that the churches are anti-male as much as that certain values that males used in fulfilling their traditional roles (like assertiveness) have been suppressed. For example, the article makes note about the “unwritten rule” that churches are supposed to be nice (unfortunately, that disease has even crept here into CAF!). While I agree that we should not go out of our way to be mean and we should be diplomatic when possible, the very mention of moral truths and the concept of mortal sin and heaven and hell often is greeted with naive silly-sallies who don’t know what they’re talking about whining about “judgmentalism” and “negativity”.
I posted this in the other thread: There is a very false notion today that being Christ-like means always being nice and submissive and agreeable and to always back down from a confrontation. We are expected to imitate Christ when He let people abuse Him and falsely accuse Him, but woe unto anyone who imitates Him when it is time to turn over a few tables or give some blunt words to people who need them like Christ gave to the pharisees! Do anything, and we’re told that we should just do nothing and let God solve everything. Don’t wipe your own butt even if you have a hand and toilet paper on the roller, otherwise you are not trusting in God. The obsession with being non-judgmental, charitable, and nice has been taken to the other extreme that it has castrated our ability to effectively practice the work of mercy known as “admonishing the sinner”.
Yet the same Christ who let Himself be falsely accused before Pilate still turned over tables in the temple, called pharisees very harsh names, and even looked at people in anger.
Also some people act as though any assertiveness or confrontation is a sin. It is NOT a sin to assert yourself and stand one’s ground and defend yourself. And to CONFRONT wrong in the world today. And these skills take practice. So when people practice these skills, don’t criticize them unless they are doing something objectrively wrong and do so in private, because public humiliation will cause a male to lose “street cred”. And if you do a search on the name “Schrosch” you will find an article that I posted about how high school seminarians in Chicago used to have to learn how to wrestle in an effort to teach them assertiveness.
And yes, these skills will be needed. It is the young men who are called upon to defend our nation in times of war. We also need to be able to protect our families, not just from physical danger, but also spiritual and other dangers. And it will also come into play when the time comes to say “No” to our children. And please note that in times of crisis, females will need to exhibit this trait as well. So to all the silly-sallies: stop getting in the way of doing our job and training for it.