Not sure if this is the most appropriate section, but please relocate this thread mods, if I put it in the wrong spot–thanks.
I don’t know if I just want to vent, or if I’d like advice…I might need both.
I have noticed in my life over the years, that when people find out you’re a devout Christian, sometimes, some, take advantage of you. Like you’re supposed to just tolerate all kinds of behavior, and if you react, well, then you’re not exhibiting ‘Christian behavior.’ I really think that I have met someone who takes advantage of me here at work. I thought we were friends, well, I am to her, but she is showing her true colors more and more each day, and I can’t help but wonder had she not known I was Christian, would she push the envelope? I have decided to distance myself from her, because I don’t need ‘friends’ who mistreat me or who use me. Which is how I feel. I don’t get close with too many at work, but every now and then, you have lunch with someone who you feel is becoming more of a friend, but in this case–I must have misread her.
It’s not just here, I have noticed that when people find out I’m Christian, they abuse boundaries…asking me for way too many favors which really borderlines rudeness. I can’t help but think it’s because people have this notion that Christians should just be so welcoming, and always accomodating. I have put up boundaries with neighbors back in PA, and suddenly the ‘friendship’ stopped. My take is that if you’re only my friend to use me, you’re not a friend.
Anyways, just curious if anyone here ever feels that they are held to this unreasonable standard of niceness because you have shared that you’re Christian with others? Yes, I try to always be polite to people, but I don’t believe because I’m Christian, I should be a doormat for people to use.
Thoughts? Thanks for listening.:o