[quote="babochka, post:3, topic:289347"]
I try to have my children Baptized by 6 weeks, and to me that seems like a long time. In some traditions, children are baptized on the 40th day, so I guess I'm right in there. I would like to do the Baptisms sooner, but I have very difficult pregnancies and I've had several c-sections, and sometimes just getting out of the house by 6 weeks is a major accomplishment. The one time that we went past 6 weeks was because we couldn't agree on Godparents. I know, we had the whole pregnancy to figure that out, but we just didn't. I was very uncomfortable with that.
Yes, I know c-sections are difficult and can definitely make it harder to make it out of the house and plan things!
[quote="melissa_b, post:4, topic:289347"]
It's always been our intention to have our children baptized within the first few weeks. We meet with the priest and schedule them ahead of time since we have relatives coming from Alaska and Colorado. With our first, his due date was March 25th and we scheduled his baptism for April 6th; however, he came early on February 29th, so he was almost 6 weeks old at baptism. Our second son was due on September 20th, born on September 18th, and baptized on October 2nd. Our third son is due on September 29th and we're scheduling the baptism for October 14th.
Most of our friends who are strong practicing Catholics also have their children baptized shortly after birth--we recently attended a baptism for a 10 day old. However, we do have other friends and relatives who attend Mass regularly but wouldn't necessarily be described as strong Catholics who wait several months before baptizing.
It's good that you are so proactive with the planning!
[quote="Phemie, post:5, topic:289347"]
I lead the baptismal preparation in my parish. Most parents call me after the baby is born, sometimes as much as 6 months after.
Even when they do the preparation during the pregnancy there is usually a reason they "can't" have the baby baptized early and it usually involves a godparent or a grandparent living away and needed to come in. No matter how many times you tell them they can have a proxy they still want to wait 'til uncle godfather can make it.
It's true what YoungTradCath says, the Church requirement used to be very well known but today few, if any, young parents are aware of that particular rule. Even when you tell them they still want the baptism when they want the baptism. I can tell you I did preparation with parents 2 years ago who STILL haven't presented their child to be baptized.
Yes, I think many parishes just don't emphasize the importance and that has a lot to do with it.
[quote="adrift, post:6, topic:289347"]
I kept telling my son that he had to contact the Church before the baby was born to complete baptism classes.
Where he lives, they don't have classes. When I had children, there were no classes. I thought today it was universal but I guess not.:shrug:
My daughter struggled with her parish. They wouldn't baptize unless it was at a once every two months Sunday Mass. They said that it wasn't important to baptize right away that it was not required anymore:mad: My daughter wanted her family present which was not possible at that Mass. They told her it was more important to have the parish family than her own:eek: She ended up going to Parishes that were in another city.
That is sad that they told her it wasn't important. It certainly is important!
[quote="marleelynn, post:7, topic:289347"]
I was one month old when I was baptized
Yes, that was more common several years ago.
[quote="SMHW, post:8, topic:289347"]
I actually think that one of the reasons baptisms get delayed is that the Church has emphasized the community aspects of baptism so much that families want to wait until it is convenient for, not just godparents, but for ALL the extended family to be there. When I was young most baptisms had parents, godparents (often proxies), and elder siblings there. If extended family lived in the same town they might show up too but baptisms were not seen as excuses for family and friend get-togethers.
And while the party aspect has very much caught on, the baptismal preparation classes part seems to remain a well guarded secret. Most Catholics know that they will need to go through marriage preparation classes if they want a Catholic wedding. But Catholic parents often have no idea they will need to take baptism preparation classes until they approach the Church after their oldest child is already born.
I think baptism celebration with extended family are wonderful but not if it mean six months worth of planning has to go into it.
I think that when the Church tells the people about the preparation that catechumens go through prior to baptism it might be wise to mention that parents likewise need to prepare on behalf of their infant children for whom they desire baptism.
Yes, I agree with you.
[quote="LilyM, post:9, topic:289347"]
I think it makes sense. Not that we shouldn't baptise infants early, the Church still strongly encourages us to do so, but I can see why it happens. I don't necessarily think it's all about the emphasis on partying.
A primary (although of course not the only) consideration behind super-early infant baptism was that up until a hundred years ago or so infant mortality rates were extremely high, and there was a very real chance that a child wouldn't live to see a year old, six months old or even two months.
With modern medicine dramatically slashing infant mortality over the course of the last century, unsurprisingly baptisms have been increasingly delayed as what was once a huge incentive is now virtually gone.
Combine that with recent clarifications on limbo - stressing, much more than was done in the past, that it is not and never has been official Church teaching that children who die unbaptised are certainly condemned to limbo - and that removes what was another huge incentive for early baptism.
Lower infant mortality probably has something to do with it.
[quote="Corki, post:10, topic:289347"]
I have lived in about a dozen parishes since I married. In ALL of them, there was a strong suggestion that parents complete the prep classes before the baby was born and to schedule the Baptism for as soon as possible after the due date.
Many young Catholic couples don't really pay attention to the idea of Baptism until after the baby is born. By that time, they may have their hands full and it gets pushed to the back burner for a while.
Yes, that's true.
[quote="Sillara, post:11, topic:289347"]
Our parish does not have baptism classes, but it is composed primarily of traveling ex-pats. Not that many babies are born there, as people move away often.
That said, we are converts. Our first three children were baptized at 3, 5, and 6. Our "Catholic babies" were all baptized within two weeks of birth. One was the first baby baptized in the new hospital chapel. :D So she was baptized at 5 days.
However, there are never any parties or anything outside our immediate family, that is, my husband, myself, and our children. We are the only Catholics on either side of our families for as far back as anyone can trace. And their Protestant denominations do not believe in infant baptism. :shrug:
It's good that you have your kids baptized so soon! There aren't any practicing Catholics in our families either, so we probably wouldn't have a big party.