We have four children ages 7-17. We are trying our best to instill the values of our Catholic faith in them.
My neice (baptized Catholic) gets married in a Yugoslavia Orthodox Church. We attend with 2 daughters standing up in the wedding. My Father is disappointed that it is not a Catholic Church but he attends.
My oldest sister was married many years ago in the Catholic Church. She then divorced. She remarried in a non-demon church. When she was expecting their first child she had the first marriage annulled. Then her “second” marriage was “blessed” by the Catholic church. Two children later she divorced. No annullment. She had been cohabiting with her latest boyfriend (after having done the same with another). We had been able to keep these details from our children. She then wants to “set things right” and decides to marry the latest boyfriend. They marry in local neighborhood non-Catholic church. I decided we shouldn’t attend because in the eyes of the Chruch, she is already married. I get some flack from other members of my family, most of whom attend. Should I have went?
Now, my nephew (from another sister) announces he is getting married next year. He was baptized a Catholic but is not longer a practicing Catholic. His girlfriend is Methodist. They are going to get married in front of a Methodist minister at some outdoor setting. His mother (my sister) is a semi-practicing Catholic. She doesn’t understand why we didn’t attend the other sisters latest “wedding”. My children feel “left out” since we didn’t attend the one wedding even though I did my best to explain it to them.
Do we attend the wedding of my Nephew? How can we celebrate and put our blessings on this? On the other hand, if we choose not to go, we are alienating ourselves from the family who don’t understand the Catholic faith. To top it off, the new couple plan on moving across the country after they get married, in essence, distancing themselves from us anyway. On the other hand, I don’t want to hurt my sister whom I have grown very close to. We have many discussions about our faith and I think she is open to expanding her faith. If I don’t go to her sons wedding, I am sure this will destroy our relationship to a degree.
I really hate these situations.