My wife and I have 5 kids ages 8 to 16. Needless to say they keep us extremely busy. We’re running to sports practices, scouts, etc most nights after I get home from work. That generally leaves us with very little time together. After almost 20 years we’ve been to Retrovaille and counseling and now TRY to get 2 hours out of the house together once a week. We’ve never even done this much without the kids for the past 16 years and I feel it kinda shows in our relationship. We’ve learned – or were told – by counselors that the marriage has to come first and that we need to make time to be together and reconnect once in a while.
I thought it might be helpful (as counselors have suggested) to get away together for a weekend – maybe even a long weekend – once in a while. Maybe only once a year. She says that NO ONE does that and the ONLY couple she knows that’s ever gone away together have the WORST marriage out of all her friends. At this point, I realize it may be too little, too late but I would still like to see if I’m way off base on this and the counselors are wrong or if people in good marriage actually DO get away and do things without the kids once in a while.
I realize, as you do, that it may be hard with 5 kids. But certainly not impossible. We went to Retrovaille weekend and they said we MUST stay at the hotel for the weekend and weren’t allowed to go home. We made arrangements for the kids and did it. So it’s not totally impossible. But is it just impractical or even a downright BAD idea??
Thanks for your input