A very corrupt official took some false information and used their power to try and destroy my parents. This action took from my parents their access to their church community (to which they were deeply involved in and volunteered hundreds if not thousands of hours to), and for my mother, it took her job. If they had followed the legal requirements it would of cost my father his job as well, and probably our home. For the most part priests and other officials turned a blind eye and offered no help. When the case got past the archdioceses (after over a year’s time of extreme turmoil) the corrupt official was immediately fired. But this was after nearly a year of great stress, unknows, money spent on legal counsel and psychological guidance, and the loss of my mother’s income as well as extreme social consequences–to which my family was bound not to speak the details of.
When the case was “closed” we received not a single apology nor any remuneration for what happened…my family was cleared of any wrongdoing and the case was destroyed. We were given a basic gag order when it was they who did wrong. The Archdioceses did reinstate my father’s volunteer position, but they said that my mother’s job was filled so she couldn’t have it back.
My brother fears going through this. He fears that any action within the Church could harm his family like it did ours.
In some respects we were lucky. We were older and we did not rely on my mother’s job to keep us afloat.