I've been thinking about this in the past couple years or so with my own family, my in-laws in particular. I actually have a really great relationship with them, and even my husband has commented that they really enjoy my presence and having me around, actually like me, and we get along really great. I don't have a healthy relationship with my family of origin, nor do I ever expect to in the future due to various issues, so in a way my in-laws have the characteristics that I wish my own parents would have and are almost more of "parents" than my own were.
Apparently, this is a rarity and usually I am told comments such as "enjoy it while it lasts. It'll change when you have children," or "oh, they're just faking it. Their true selves will come out soon enough" (faking it for more than 5 years?) and my favorite, "if you ever live closer to them they will turn a 180. Beware!"
Is it me, or are comments like that a little disparaging? Or perhaps, I could truly be naive?
I mean, I really like my in-laws, and from what I understand they really like me-- in fact, I get along better with my FIL than my husband does. And that's his own parent! Why would that relationship all of a sudden change, unless I were to change something myself?
Is it really rare to actually like your in-laws, let alone get along with them?