Thank you. Sometimes I get so swamped in the secular world that I forget that guys like to be needed. And I would like to become closer friends with the guy I like. I just have to take it one day at a time.
Don’t worry. I’m not a giggler. (I’m a little old for it.) He hasn’t asked me out yet, but he likes spending time with me. I know that because he goes out of his way to sometimes.
Hmmmm. Looks like I’ll have to work on my lasagna.
I think I gave a false impression by what I wrote. I don’t smile insincerely or keep a smile plastered on my face. I’m a very smiley person because, especially when I’m around other people, I tend to be happy. But if I’m in a bad mood around this guy, I don’t smile. An insincere smile is anathema to me. (And he smiles and laughs a lot when I make jokes, so I think they go over well. :p)
I have often been told that I was awkward by other people. I didn’t realize it until they told me. However, I’m less awkward than I used to be. I don’t see how it could harmful to acknowledge the truth about myself.
Thanks for your advice. I certainly have an interest in him, so it’s not hard to show a certain amount of interest and ask questions.
I don’t think learning about money and sports is a great idea for me. I have no interest in either, and I’m not willing to pretend either does interest me. This guy and I have other interests in common, like Bible reading, so hopefully that will be enough.
And I’m not terribly young. I was just curious to know how other folks think about this kind of thing. I have ample personal formation, thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s good to know that patience pays off. It sounds like you guys are just right for each other.
I think you’re right. I’ll just focus on the friendship for now.
I wish I were a better cook! I’m good at baking, but half of the things I cook are bland and the other half are just so-so. I’ll have to work on that… He’s a huge fan of eating, I know.
I’m glad you said he will appreciate the effort! I do my best, but, as I said above, it doesn’t always come to much.
Thank you for saying this. I do always aim to be myself.
I’m not trying to convince this guy he likes me. It’s just that some women are better at attracting men than others. I was curious how those women think about it.
Thanks for your advice though. I’ll keep it in mind.
Thanks for your advice and story. I’m sure you’re right.
You are mistaken that all women plan to change the men they date. I only date men I like the way they are, and I would only marry a man who was okay “as-is.” No one likes to be turned into a project. If I wanted to change people, I would become a psychotherapist or counselor, so I could make a difference in their lives without having to live with them…
Thanks for your advice. Guys have often told me I don’t talk enough, so I’m not too worried I’m talking their ears off, but it’s good to know there is an opposite extreme.
Thanks for posting the articles. I haven’t had a chance to look at them yet, but I will.
Thanks again to everyone who wrote. It is really interesting to see all your different perspectives, and you gave me a lot of good advice.