Well the thing is, recently I’ve come out of my shell of shyness that has been preventing me from making any real friends and all around being a likable person for the past few years (I’m 19 BTW) and while I haven’t made any close friends yet, I’m scared that if I do I may lose them for various reasons which are:
a) my viewpoints on life and religion. I admit I’m not really devout as I don’t pray that much anymore but I still believe deeply in God and the intercessory power of Mary, I still study my faith, beleive all the dogmas of the Church, am absolutely utterly pro-life and against homosexual ‘unions’ etc… and because of this I’m scared that people are going to judge me badly. I’m somebody who does not discuss his religions of beliefs unless another party initiates such a conversation and even then I try to discuss the topic instead of going into some dumb debate which leads nowhere.
So for example, I’m scared that if I were to declare myself pro-life and against homosexual civil unions, the friends I’d have made would rile up against me because they are of differing belief or at least would look at me with contempt. Do you guys think that maybe I should avoid people like that and meet up with more devout and outgoing people or those who have the same beliefs like me?
I’m also scared that maybe people are going to hate me for trying to be a gentleman. I don’t want to sound all self righteous but I do want to be a kind of gentleman to everyone around me, being casually nice and caring and I’m scared that people, especially girls, will not reciprocate my intentions and would just glare at me or something. I know full well that good women aren’t weak emotionally and that they shouldn’t be regarded as some sort of supernatural creature but as human beings but at the same time, I can’t help but think that both men and women treat each other differently based on gender on things like modesty and manners.
What advice can you guys give me? Thanks!