The biggest problem I have is with things that don’t burden my conscience at all, as in my own judgement they don’t feel sinful anyhow, but may be sinful in the eyes of the Church.
This means sometimes I end up regretting that I did something and resolving not to do that again without really feeling what’s wrong about it.
Therefore, apart from the circumstances of an act, I also tell the priest the state of my mind and the exact way, shape and form of my regret.
As for something closer to classic scrupulosity, sometimes I catch myself using insane culpability extension for the effects of an act. After all, Jesus was not responsible for scandal when Jews and even some disciples were turned off by His command to eat His body and drink His blood, right? Blessed Virgin Mary isn’t responsible for any of the thoughts people might have regarding the circumstances of Jesus’s conception, right? But I always have a huge trouble drawing the line for ordinary mortals, myself included. The official construction of the sin of scandal not being obvious and clear doesn’t help, either.
On the other hand, sometimes I probably end up being lax on acts for which the actor isn’t feeling guilty. For example, I will bow to the Church’s magisterium authority, but I won’t follow the majority consensus of even major theologists even if I happen to disagree with them on important moral matters.
In practical everyday life, I have problems with stuff like:
- making a mortal sin of French kissing (not saying it can’t make on occasion)
- demanding spouses to follow through up to intercourse if they happen to have a sexual thought while kissing or hugging, especially under the penalty of mortal sin
not making a sin of non-exclusive dating if developing romantic feelings for multiple persons is involved, or if romantic kissing/hugging/flirting/sweet-talking is involved
- making a (mortal) sin of every orgasm that happens for a spouse with relation to the other spouse but outside of full intercourse
- suggesting not to investigate the validty of a marriage without suggesting convalidation (enter fornication)
- trying to make a sin of strong emotional/spiritual bonds between people (of course, I have a problem with anything which is romantic and isn’t exclusive - and I have a problem with not making a sin of it)
I don’t believe there is anything infallible to back the above, therefore I don’t feel obligated to feel about those the same way as even some theologists and clergy feel about it. Of course, anyone is free and welcome to try to show me how I am wrong.
Myself having some qualifications for adjudicating secular law issues and doing that routinely in my studies according to my conscience doesn’t really help me to agree with a moral judgement I don’t feel to be reasonable.
See? Not only for you are things less than simple.