In a nutshell these books help the faithful recognize suffering as a gift - a special invitation from Christ Himself - for us to join Him intimately along the road to Calvary. We become Simon of Cyrene, so to speak. It is a great honor to be of service to the Lord in such ways. Not so great an honor that any of us would wish it upon another, of course, but an honor should we happen to know anyone who has been so chosen by God to share in His redemptive suffering.
As AnthonyM2 noted, a viewing of the Passion of the Christ may very well be a good place to start. I believe that DVD is in many languages so that should help your mother.
Once she witnesses the cross Jesus had to bear - for her, for you, for us - if you can help her to understand that her own pain and suffering is not punishment, but a calling from Jesus to her personally, to join Him, she may be able to shake this image of punishment from her mind.
You say she prays for death. This is because she is afraid of what she is going through, it frightens her. She cannot see all the good she can do with her suffering for others - particularly anyone she knows and loves who has died before her and may be in purgatory. She feels alone and abandoned, much as Jesus probably did when everyone ran away as he was taken away to be scourged. But Jesus knew He was not alone. Your mother is not alone. She is right beside Jesus in His passion. He will be with her through anything she is experiencing. She needs to be able to feel His presence in her pain so that she will find comfort in it. If death is in her near future, all the more reason for her to use this time she has to embrace the Cross with Jesus by her side so that the most good may come from this journey of theirs.
JPII said: “The springs of divine power gush forth precisely in the midst of human weakness. Those who share in the sufferings of Christ preserve in their own sufferings a very special particle of the infinite treasure of the world’s Redemption, and can share this treasure with others.” (*Salvifici Doloris, 27)
*Jeff Cavins and Matthew Pinto, in their introduction to the “Amazing Grace” book wrote:
*When our lives are joined with Christ, we change.
Every aspect of our life is changed, even our suffering.
The suffering actually becomes redemptive, and we participate with Christ in redeeming the world.
Once we discover meaning in our suffering, we gain a key to spiritual treasures, both in our earthly life and in the life to come.
We obtain a wisdom that enables us not only to survive but to thrive, even while adversity continues.
The book then presents, in the words of those interviewed, stories of suffering and how these people came to recognize the redemptive value of their experiences. Some of these stories are:[LIST]
*]a dedicated Catholic deacon who was falsely accused of fraud and spent 2 1/2 years in prison
*]a woman who watched her husband and daughter get swept out to sea
*]a cheerleader who battled breast cancer and a husband’s drug addiction
*]a woman who suffered a near-fatal head-on collision with an 18-wheeler
*]a family whose 11 year old daughter was murdered on her paper route
*]a woman born with a severe handicap and faces a lifetime of serious disability
*]a renowned Catholic convert who suffered for more than 30 years with debilitating migraines
*]a woman who lost nine children through miscarriage and has endured numerous other physical maladies[/LIST]The book is not published in other languages. But it may help her to know that there are people who have experienced her pain and then some who were able - with the grace of God - to find Jesus in those experiences to such an extent that they were able to find peace in the pain and share their stories to help others get through their pain.
You can offer her hope. If she desires to be like these people, then maybe she’ll invite a priest into her home to teach her how.