I guess the title probably sounds a little provocative but I don’t mean it that way. I’m sure there’s a lot of opinions on the matter. I’m not even saying that lots of annulments is even bad per se as long as it follows a good process. I must just not understand it on some fundamental level.
The church assumes any marriage she witnesses is valid. But then some of them aren’t. But then what does it actually mean to be married in the church if it could all be fake? The reason I go to confession is because forgiveness is always there. The reason I recieve communion is that Christ is always present. Why would I trust the church with my marriage when she admits she only assumes I’m actually married?
While I have always struggled with the church teaching on divorce and remarriage somewhat, I assent to it because I want to be (remain) Catholic and I love the church. I’ve defended the church in this matter against friends and family, but I wish I could be convicted on a deeper level myself.
As Morty would say, sometimes annulments just seems like divorce with extra steps. “Oh your spouse cheated on you? That shows that he or she never intended marriage to be permanent, so you never had a marriage in the first place.” That 1) seems like an exercise in word gymnastics, 2) sounds even worse than a divorce (what you had is gone versus you’ve never had anything. In fact, all the sex you had was unwitting fornication and your kids were born out of wedlock), and 3) seems like a loose interpretation of the rules. But I see that logic on CAF a lot.
(TLDR)I guess my question boils down to this:
Do annulments make it so that most people who could get a divorce/remarriage in a conservative Protestant congregation (apostasy, infidelity, abuse) can get an annulment?
If so why do all the semantics to avoid agreeing with our Protestant brothers?
Is there a lot of abuse in this system? Are valid marriages often dissolved today? Maybe someone could explain how we’re sure this doesn’t happen. It seems to me that dissolving valid unions is a bigger problem than not dissolving some invalid ones.