After 24 years of marriage, to my stepfather, my mom is getting a divorce.
She was born and raised Roman Catholic. Married my father and had me and my 2 older sisters. They were married for 15 years and divorced after she found out my father had been unfaithful and that he didn’t want to leave his “girlfriend”.
My father isn’t Catholic, but he did take the instructions on marriage beforehand and they got married in the Church. After the divorce, my mom found it to be too painful to go through with the annulment. She ended up leaving the Church because she was confused on many different levels.
We (my mom, me and my 2 sisters) started going to an Assembly of God church and that’s how we were raised. During this time her and my stepfather married.
Starting in my mid-twenties I began to think about my “roots”, I did a lot of research on the Catholic religion, went through the RCIA and became a member of the Church this past Easter. During the process of going through the RCIA I would tell my mom about everything we were learning, what we were doing, etc. (I must add that she was extremely supportive of my decision). When she would come here to visit she would go to Mass with me. During this time she was secretly pondering on coming back to the Church.
About 3 months ago she finally told me her plans of coming back. I was so very happy and in shock, only because she had been extremely faithful to the “protestant way” for so many years.
She consulted with my stepfather and he was supportive of her. She began to start the process (with my stepfather planning to follow her lead) of getting their annulments from their first marriages so she and my stepfather could get married in the Church. He has since changed his mind - not wanting to live as brother and sister until they can get married.
My stepfather was born and raised protestant - its all he’s ever known, he doesn’t understand Catholicism much less the importance of having to get an annulment from his first wife. My mom has tried, exhaustively, to explain to him the reasons/importance of going through with all of this. I think the world of my stepfather, he’s a very good man, but I of course have to support my mom as I (as a Catholic) believe what the Church says.
My mom desperately wants to be able to receive the sacraments, she’s in love with the Catholic Church and finally feels like she’s home again. Since my stepfather has adamantly stated he will not go through with his annulment, nor will he live celibate with her, my mom has decided on divorce.
As most of you can imagine, this is a major sacrifice for wanting/needing to do the right thing. As I previously said, they have been married for 24 years and have had a good marriage - but the most important thing is that its not a marriage in God’s eyes, nor in the Church’s eyes.
I beg all of you to keep them in your prayers as they go through this trying ordeal. Most importantly, please pray that my mom has continuing peace with her decision.
P.S. - If this is in the wrong forum I trust that admin. will move it. My apologies if it is.