[quote="NFP1Kate, post:1, topic:288661"]
Tonight my husband had a serious talk with me. We have been using NFP to avoid pregnancy since the birth of our 3rd child (she is now 15 months old).
He says he is done with NFP and will accept another baby whenever God sends one. As much as I loved hearing him say that, I am not ready.
I read somewhere that both husband and wife must be in agreement or they are not allowed to use NFP to avoid. I know he would not push me into having another pregnancy, but I cannot think of a fair and just way to keep abstaining if he really doesn't want to.
What does the Church ask of me in this situation????? I just don't feel ready and that leaves me with a lot of anxiety to take on another pregnancy at this time.
Boy, it is hard. What to say?
I remember that once I was in a brilliant doctor in a Seminar about the subject and he said that a lady came with the same problem and (being a funny guy) he said her to put a jar of water beside the bed. If the husband advanced too much, she could throws the jar of water on top of him. But he was joking. But she did it and it was a mess, the bed soaked in water, the husband angry...
And he also said that some women used the trick (that he did not approve...) that if talk on dinner slipped into preliminaries, a lady would change the subject into mortgages, children and cooling subjects... and it worked...
I am sidestepping the question, I know, for I do not know an answer for it. It was hard for us too, very hard.